Loving University

Surrender your Battlefield Boundaries and establish a new baseline. 

It makes sense we have arrived at a boundary conversation oriented around threat, if we come from cultures of trauma. Trauma moves the floor, our baseline standard of what life includes. Many of us grew up in cultures of trauma. Those of us who did, have what I think of as "Battlefield Boundaries," the boundaries we employ while at war. These boundaries are useful only when the siege is underway, when the threat surrounds. Many boundary teachers orient around healing or managing traumatic experiences, and these boundaries of protection are sacred and important. But boundaries of protection are different from boundaries of connection. 

In times of peace, in safety, boundaries of protection become the threat. 

The assumption of harm and violence, of others' desire or proclivity to hurt us, the prediction that we will be navigating conflict in some way, is endemic to the current boundary conversation, and it keeps us stuck in the plane of relating where these assumptions are true. 

That's why I created The Boundary Course, which I've now revamped, updated, and rebranded to become Abundantly Boundaried. 

This is the course on boundaries which adjusts the entire system of your relational standards, and it's designed to do so mostly subliminally. 

Abundantly Boundaried teaches through first person pronouns and affirmations to integrate a standard of safety, connection, presence, love, play, and most of all POSITIVITY into your relationship practices. 

Positivity, by the way, is not goodness. 

Positivity is attention on what is and what we hope to experience, rather than what is not and what we wish to avoid experiencing.

Abundantly Boundaried offers a framework for taking joyful personal responsibility to facilitate your surrender to receiving real love and experiencing loving interactions. 

When you receive this way, you receive only exactly what you prefer of what the world might offer, dropping away wasteful efforts to control the uncontrollable. Your life runs on your personal responsibility, and your personal responsibility is efficient and easy to maintain.

Abundantly Boundaried teaches boundaries and boundary practices that get exponentially easier over time, to implement, to hold, and to communicate. That means that boundaries eventually become effortless, an afterthought. 

Most of all, Abundantly Boundaried offers boundaries of connection, boundaries that facilitate intimacy, increase adoration, generate respect, and preserve the experience of love for all those involved.

Boundaries are where connection happens, the way skin is where we feel another's skin. 

The best boundaries are about how we make relating feel ever-more exquisite, leaving far behind those battlefield practices of triage and minimizing harm. 

The best boundaries become new and embodied standards of relating, ones we couldn't abandon if we tried.